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Hi. I’m still alive. I’ve thought of so many blog posts over the past few weeks but life has been getting in the way. Thank goodness you (mom) are there to continue the posting. (She has another quilt that she made for a friend that hopefully she’ll show soon! Amazing.)
Now . . . on to today’s post . . .
Mike is away this week . . . London. I was lucky enough to have you (mom) come up to help me take care of my boys while I was also traveling and working long hours. (THANK YOU!). But you leave and I almost fall apart. Not because I need help . . . I do love having a second set of hands . . . but my mind is distracted by too many things (stuff I need to get done before our trip, the mile-long list of things I need to do at work today, guilt of not making it through an entire T25 cycle before I put myself in a bathing suit next week, etc.) that I forget about the most important thing . . . Julian. This morning I was in the bathroom (for 30 seconds) . . . and during that time Julian managed to pick up Chet’s (ceramic) water dish (which I ALWAYS pick up when Julian’s around but forgot), dump the water out, slip due to the water being on the ground, fall and bring the bowl down with him, break the bowl and . . . by the time I rushed back . . . he had a piece of broken bowl in his hand and blood was dripping on the floor. My perfect little boy was broken and it was my fault. Ugh. I wanted to throw up and cry at the same time . . . meanwhile he was “finger painting” his blood all over the walls and floor. He could care less.
Have you ever tried to put a band-aid on a 13 month old’s finger? Its impossible. Putting on two (to keep his finger straight so the blood stops pouring out) . . . double impossible task. But you know what? I did it (after putting hydrogen peroxide on it, mom!). I also made him breakfast, played for a while, had him help me pick out an outfit (that boy has great taste!), had snuggle time, put him down for a nap, got a shower, sent a few work emails, washed the bathroom rug that was spattered with Julian’s blood, washed the dishes, made Julian lunch . . . and then ran into Diana’s arms when she arrived because I was so relieved she was there and she could tell me that he was going to be okay. Now I’m here, at my desk, trying not to think about his little finger but its hard.
- Don’t let fear be an excuse for inaction. “At one point, we were all fearful,” said GMA anchor Robin Roberts. “But as you get older, it’s the things you don’t do that you regret, more so than the things you do. When fear knocks, answer.”
- If the rights of any woman are threatened, the rights of all women are threatened. “It is my hope that this moment will inspire people to understand that the issues of transgender women are women’s issues,” said Laverne Cox. Preach. We live in a world where trans people still experience high levels of verbal harassment, physical assault, poverty and suicide. Feminism includes fighting for the right of any individual to express their gender identity authentically without having to worry about violence or social stigma.
- Your story is powerful. So tell it authentically. “The best stories are often true,” said Shonda Rhimes as she introduced Robin Roberts — a woman who has an amazing story. “The narrative of human life is most beautiful when told truthfully and without boundaries.”
- You don’t need balls to be courageous. During Amy Schumer’s touching — and hilarious — tribute to the late Joan Rivers, she explained one thing that Rivers taught us all: “Having balls has nothing to do with it.” Damn straight.
- Women’s equality isn’t just an idea. It has real consequence for all of us — and for our children. “We need to close the imagination gap for women,” said Chelsea Clinton, touching on how the current climate of gender inequality impacts the girls who will grow up to be the women of tomorrow, including her newborn daughter Charlotte. “I want Charlotte to grow up whatever she dreams to be, wherever she dreams to do it, however she chooses to become it.”
- Ignorance isn’t bliss. It’s damage. “The biggest problem is ignorance,” said Sylvia Earle. “If you do not know, you can’t care.”
- Being the first is great, but being one of many is better. “I live for the day it’s not groundbreaking to have an Indian woman with her own TV show,” said Mindy Kaling, who is often singled out simply for existing as a successful woman of color in the entertainment industry. “I long for the time when there are so many women who look like me that I am no longer a model minority.”
- “To be a woman is to be human.” And as Lupita Nyong’o explained, our humanity is the most beautiful part about us. “To be human is to seek perfection and find joy in never attaining it,” she said.
- Do what you can, because every bit of change matters. As U.S. ambassador to the U.N. Samantha Power so eloquently stated: “Just try to change your slice of the world and the rest will follow.”
I follow FEED on Instagram (I follow a lot of non-profit organizations on Instagram that are doing things to make this World a better place . . . well, and then I also follow Kim Kardashian . . . I mean, I need to be up to date on her life of course! It makes me feel better for some reason. Hopefully one day I’ll win the lottery and can devote my life to helping others . . .). ANYWAY, back to FEED, They had this post today and its a post that I really needed . . . today . . . so I thought I would share (that’s the beautiful Lauren Lauren – the co-founder of FEED, granddaughter of George Bush, Sr and wife of David Lauren, the son of Raph Lauren . . . did you get all that?!?).
FEED’s mission is to create good products that help FEED the world. They have pretty cute stuff. Love this little beach bag to put your phone, money, etc in while you’re in the sand (which will provide 25 school meals).
One of Ellen’s MANY projects is Refugee Artisans of Worcester (RAW) whose mission is to identify refugee artisans and assist them to self-sufficiency through the sale of their art. There was recently an article published in the Worcester Magazine (where Ellen and Richard live). check it out
(I’m sorry, in advance, for the debbie downer post I’m about to write)
As you know, Mom, growing up I was very close with my friend Crystal . . . and if anyone is a close friend to Crystal that meant they were close friends with her big sister, Kimi. They were two peas in a pod, whether they wanted to be or not. They were as close as two people could be . . . even as they grew older and started to live their own lives.
A few weeks ago, when Kimi’s health took a turn for the worst, Crystal reached out to all of her friends and family members for stories, inspirational quotes, pictures, etc. that she could share with Kimi. I sent her the following note.
I don’t know what it’s like to have a sister but I can imagine that the thought of losing her feels like you will also lose a part of yourself. I remember coming over to your house and spending hours with you and Kimi . . . talking about boys and shopping and fashion. I loved going to the mall with you and her and all of our friends. Riding in the van . . . going out to eat . . . she was always so giving . . . buying things for everyone else. I also remember spending nights at Immaculata and being so impressed at the awesome friends she had made there. She never let her condition stop her from living . . . from graduating from high school and then college . . . from beating all odds. It’s truly inspiring.
It’s unfair that some of us get to walk around . . . drive cars . . . write on a keyboards using two hands while others struggle to do . . . well, everything. It’s heartbreaking to know that her life on Earth will be short but she will continue to live on through all of you. She will be with other loved ones and will be able to walk freely and eat all of her favorite foods and shop at her favorite stores and be able to spend her days at peace.
Kimi is inspiring but so are you and her other constant companions. Part of the reason she is such a fighter is because she has incredible champions of strength around her every day. You all have given her a life that has been full of love, adventure, laughter and tears of joy . . . and in turn she has given you the same. I wish you peace to remember those moments now instead of her in her current state.
Please tell Kimi that I will continue to pray for her and will think of her always . . . just as I have since meeting her decades ago. She is the type of person that leaves an imprint on your heart . . . one that will not fade with time. Please give her a kiss from me.
Kimi lost her 35 year battle with muscular dystrophy this past Friday. The viewing was last night and service was today. I couldn’t make it but have been thinking about her and Crystal and their family constantly. Even when I didn’t even know I was . . . everyone was asked to wear pink to the funeral today, since that was Kimi’s favorite color . . . I was going to wear pink to work today to honor her but totally forgot when I was getting ready this morning and walked out the door in my normal black on black on black . . . but something made me go back and get a pink scarf to jazz my outfit up a little bit . . . it wasn’t until I was on the subway that I realized who made me go back and grab it.
Also while on the subway this morning I read about a family in Cali that lost their 3.5 year old little boy on Friday and I can’t get it out of my mind. The little boy’s name is Ryan and his mom has a blog that is very well followed. He was at a family members house and was playing frisbee . . . ran into the street to grab it and a truck killed him instantly. (ugh, i know . . . makes you feel sick to your stomach – their best friend posted the story here :().
Since then the blogging/mommy instagram community has rallied around his parents providing support, donations for his service, sharing pictures of them, just letting them know that we are all aching for them as well. They created the hashtag #redballonsforryan and so far 19k pictures have been posted using that hashtag. Its incredible.
So today, I just wanted to spend some time remembering Kimi . . . and thinking of Ryan . . . and their families. Sending them strength and support as they navigate their new lives without their loved ones.
It’s amazing how much witnessing the miracle of life can also make you truly understand the incomprehensible grief that comes with death of a child. Going to give Julian a lot of extra kisses tonight.