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One Week to Go . . .

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Kim –

One week . . . that’s right . . . 168 hours (give or take an hour or two) until you, my bestest girlfriend in the whole world, will add another member to our wolfpack (like I need to remind you! 🙂 ). 

From the country roads we traveled together as little girls on Franny’s school bus . . . to the moments we spent obsessing about boys, fashion, cars, dances, working out, sports, boys, boys, boys and boys in high school . . . to keeping in touch through phone lines, emails, texts and spring break trips throughout college . . . to being by each other’s sides when we married our sole mates . . . to now . . . when you’re a week away from becoming a mother . . . what a journey full of love, happiness, sadness, craziness, late nights, long cries, belly aching laughter . . . . 

With you being thousands of miles from me is nothing new . . . but it’s SUCH A BUMMER during times like these.  Even though I won’t be there to give you a big hug and congratulate you, in person, for your amazing creation, I hope that you know that I’ll be there with you in spirit.  How exciting that a week from now you’ll  hear the baby’s first cry . . . hold them in your arms . . . look into their eyes for the first time . . . and frantically count out ten fingers and ten toes.  You better enjoy every single moment because, from what I hear, time flies.

Now, I’m not a mommy myself (well, a mommy to a human that is) but I know some pretty awesome ones that were kind enough to share their advice for your LAST WEEK of being a family of 2 (and some very helpful advice for after). Thanks ladies for contributing – you’re all such an inspiration to me!

My advice is to enjoy some time to yourself. Go for a walk, treat yourself to a white linen lunch and hang out in your undies and watch a funny chick flick. Also enjoy some time with your husband. Have a fun night out on the town, look at wedding pictures and maybe even get a little frisky 🙂 You may feel like a sausage but I bet your husband has never thought that you have looked more beautiful. You might be tempted to spend your last few days perfecting the nursery and making sure the house is spick and span but I promise you that your little one won’t know the difference! Best of luck 🙂

 –          Caitlin

1. Enjoy each other’s company without any surrounding distractions – maybe one more date night this week, capped off by a sunset walk on the beach. Take pictures of the two of you! 2.      Remember you’re not perfect; your family is a work in progress, always under construction.  Discuss with each other your adaptation to the upcoming life changes and your perception of family life. 3. Above all else, to thine own self be true; you must take care of yourself first, and the rest will fall into place; don’t sweat the small stuff. 4. Take some quiet time this week to DREAM; journal your thoughts.  Reflect on the past, ponder the possibilities for the future, and celebrate life (however you choose)! Laugh together! 5. Remember that even good advice is someone else’s perceptions and suggestions of what to do or not to do; extract only that which makes sense to you and throw the rest away.  It’s your personal journey, and your family’s journey, not theirs. 

–          Cindy

My advice would be to have one last candlelit dinner together.  Eat great food and just enjoy each other’s company.  Once the baby arrives you can still have a candlelit dinner, but no matter how hard you try your children will forever be a part of the conversation.  Oh and of course, SLEEP!  

 –          Heather

Sleep. Go out to eat. Get your hair done. Get any kind of appointment out of the way. As for after, I wish I had never listened to the nurses. They told me to feed the baby every two hours. Whatever. Feed them when they wake up! Get out of the house and take a shower everyday no matter what. You’ll feel better in the end.

 –          Shannon

Get a manicure and pedicure . . . and, if you need it, a haircut and color, it will be the last time in a while that you can treat yourself.  Sleep in late one last time. Go out to dinner with your hubby to your favorite restaurant.  Make sure you have the following in your bag for the hospital – flip flops (for the shower), cotton spandex-y dresses that have easy access for breast feeding (and are comfortable enough to sleep in but nice enough to hang out in during the day), a NEWBORN outfit for the baby – 0 to 3 month outfits won’t fit.

 –          Katie

A piece of advice I got from Julie was to take advantage and appreciate being able to leave the house with just keys and a wallet!  Boy was she right!  It takes about a half hour just to leave the house now! Don’t stress about losing baby weight. It will come off at its own pace! YOU will know what is right for you and your baby  – it’s a natural motherly instinct!  Don’t let anyone tell you what you should and should not be doing.  Your baby will let you know if he or she is happy or not. Let it out and don’t feel guilty!!!  There WILL be times that you are completely overwhelmed and even sad or scared!  Cry!!!  I promise you, everyone goes through it and if they say they didn’t then they are lying.  Ask for help!  Surprisingly people are actually sooooo more than willing to help you out after the little one arrives.  Even with the simplest things like getting you a coffee.  Trust me, even that becomes a challenge with a little one in tow! Work on thank you cards while you are in the hospital.  You will get soooo many visitors and gifts during your time in and out of the hospital.  Start writing cards while you are there with nurses, quiet time and help because trust me….it could take months after you get home to find enough time to finish them! Bring chapstick, music, and a bathrobe to the hospital.  🙂 Enjoy every moment with your little one!  And take soooooo many pictures because you can never have enough.  They really do grow and change every single day!

 –          Morgan

My advice would be for you to sleep as much as possible the week before the baby comes – you will need it! And to always do what works for you and the baby – mommy always knows what’s best no matter what anyone says! And to enjoy every moment possible because they grow so quick! 

–          Crystal

Enjoy every second, it goes faster than you could ever imagine. Don’t let the day-to-day grind overshadow the enjoyment of this fleeting season of your life. When it gets tough remember that everything is a phase and will pass (You may have to say that about a thousand times on a bad day). Do what feels right to you. You will get ALOT of advice, solicited and unsolicited, about how to do things (feeding, sleeping, wearing the baby..everything); do what your gut tells you. Do what makes you feel best, or at least, what makes you feel the least worst. Hahah. I’m not saying that it doesn’t matter what you do, exactly, as much as your own maternal instinct will never lead you wrong. Trust your instinct above and beyond any books you read (most of them were written by men who have never been a mom anyway). You’ll make a mistakes, and its okay! Don’t beat yourself up about it:) You both are new to this gig. All the advice in the world is just information, you can take what’s useful to you and discard the rest, guilt-free. You are already the mom your child needs and you’re just going to keep getting better at the job!!

 –          Theresa

For yourself…sleep late! Once baby comes sleep will be hard to come by..at least for a couple months. As a couple…go out to eat alone or with friends. Stay out late and enjoy yourselves. The next time you go out to eat at a restaurant you’ll be getting a table for 2 and a half. 🙂 For the baby…start a website for him/her! That way you can share pictures and videos with friends and family who don’t live close by.

–          Angelina

Go to your favorite bookstore this week and buy three books to read.  Spend time looking at every newly released book.  Select books that have nothing to do with biology, child birth or rearing, or politics.  Sit in a comfy chair and enjoy the pleasure of completely indulging in something you are doing only yourself.  (Have you read Outlander by Diana Gabaldon ?)

 –          Bev

1) nap, nap, and nap some more! At this point you’re so uncomfortable it’s hard to get a full night’s sleep in you may as well take a bunch of cat naps! Plus, sleep will soon be a hard thing to come by!!! 2.) get a pedicure!!! Nothing feels better than someone giving you a [light pressure, non labor inducing] foot rub with a super cute outcome!! 3.) go out to eat at a great restaurant with your hubby – and take your sweet time there!  before you know it you will have a baby and then a toddler and they don’t always allow for a leisurely dinner out! 4.) last tip is to just to sit back, relax, and daydream about this amazing journey you’ve been on!  Don’t worry about your upcoming c-section, as tempting as it may be!!! Just think about how awesome your pregnancy has been and how much you’re gonna rock at being a mama!!!!! Love you so much, Kimmy!!!

 –          Marcee

1. Get a Mani, pedi, bikini wax and eye brow wax!  2. Go for a nice, brisk walk since you can’t exercise for 6 weeks after c-section 3. Eat ice cream and whatever else you crave since the “I’m eating for two” excuse I almost over 4. Go to Target or somewhere to buy yourself some “granny panties” and pads. You will be using both for a while after birth. Believe me!! Not a lot of people tell you that. And to go along  with that, definitely take home a bunch of extra pairs of the amazing mesh underwear from the hospital. All my friends and I used those until we finally switched to the granny panties. 5. Sit on the couch and read a magazine without thinking about a thing!! Soon you’ll have a lot of amazing new things to think about as reading celebrity gossip will be pushed aside for a while. 6. Enjoy it all. And cry when you want to! Good luck!!! Motherhood is the best thing ever! Wish you the best! 

 –          Jess

Now, my list of things to do this week:

Get a pedicure.  I  would go with Fiesta by Essie or Lucky Lucky Lavender by OPI.  (nothing makes you feel ready to attack a new challenge like freshly painted toes!). Rest.  Chill your favorite bottle of white wine for when you come home (and have a free hand/free second to drink it – only if it’s a half glass – with your honey). Rest. Place an order for sushi to be delivered to the hospital on Monday night (I would personally die without sushi for 9 months). Buy dry shampoo (do they let you wash and blow dry your hair? ) and maybe a nice headband.  You may not end up caring, but it’s nice to have those items on hand, right? 🙂 (or have I watched one too many episodes of Pregnant in Heels?  See, now you understand why I asked the Mom pros to share their advice!). Rest. Get the Kindle app on your iPhone and a book downloaded so you can read while you’re feeding the baby (when you become a pro).  Shannon did this and I thought it was a great idea! Create a contact list with Matt of people that must know who this little munchin is (and if you’re okay) the second (okay, maybe give it a couple of minutes) it comes out.  This is very important because he will be harassed by me until I get an update (just kidding . . . but kind of not 🙂 ). Make sure all of your comfy lulu pants are washed, readily accessible and ready to be lived in for the next few weeks. Rest. Get Matt to give you a big hug for me. Give Matt a big hug for me. Call me 🙂 Rest. 

You’ve been such an amazing friend to me, so there is NO DOUBT in my mind that you’re going to be the most amazing mother.  I look forward to being next to you while you move into this new and very exciting chapter of your life. I’m SO thrilled for you and Matt and CANNOT WAIT to meet (32 days and counting) this little one.

 xoxo

 Dara

Written by bevanddara

June 25, 2012 at 8:44 am

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  1. Dara – what an amazing, beautiful gift to Kimberly (and Matt)!

    Cindy (a.k.a. Nana) :)

    June 25, 2012 at 9:07 am

  2. It was a joy to participate in this! Thanks for being you, Dara and thinking of this! xoxo

    Marcee

    June 25, 2012 at 1:49 pm

  3. Wow. I was SO not prepared to be balling my eyes out over my lunch break when checking in on my bestie’s blog! Thank you so much Dara for well, quite honestly, being you! You are hands down the most thoughtful person and I know, and I think any of your friends would agree. I am so lucky to have such an amazing best friend, even though we can’t seem to get it together enough to live in the same place (maybe one day)!!! Thank you to all the beautiful mommies who shared their words of advice. We’ve been doing our best to enjoy our remaining days as a family of 2. We went to a swanky movie theater last night with recliners and a wait staff- soooo fun, have been taking long walks and talking about anything and everything, enjoying breakfasts at Pannikin, and catching up on the last season of True Blood! 🙂 We are super excited to meet Bean and for him/her to meet Aunt Dara! LOVE YOU!!!!!!!! XOXOXOXO

    Kim

    June 25, 2012 at 4:37 pm


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